“For I have given you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.” (John 13:15)
Many in religious leadership positions think they lead by giving direction and commandments to others. But the desert fathers noted that the Christian way is to lead by example, which is so much more difficult. We are to be models of virtue so that others can follow our example. “… set the believers an example in speech and conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).
An old man asked Abba Poemen, saying, “Some brethren dwell with me; does thou wish me to give them commandments?” And he said unto him, “No, but thou thyself must first do work, and if they wish to live, they will observe it and do it.” The old man said unto him, “Ought they also to wish me to govern them?” And Abba Poemen said unto him, “No, be unto them an example, and not a lawgiver.” (E. Wallis Budge, The Paradise of the Holy Fathers, p. 108)