We usually think of sins as actions intentionally or purposefully done, sometimes even done with malice. But there are also sins and offenses which people commit with no malice because they are unaware of how their behavior affects others. In this story from the desert fathers, we see exactly this latter case, two monks who are endlessly irritated by the wrong behavior of a third monk. The third monk’s behavior is so offensive that the two monks decide the most loving thing is simply to move away from him. But as often is the case, we have to think about what Christian love demands of us and what constraints it puts on us.
They used to say of Abba Poemen that he was staying at Scete with two of his brothers and the younger one was troubling them. He said to the other brother: “This young fellow is our undoing; get up and let us be gone from here.” Out they went and left him. Realizing that they were a long time gone he saw them in the distance. He started to run after them, crying out. Abba Poemen said “Let us wait for the brother, for he is in adversity.” When he caught up with them [the brother] prostrated himself, saying: “Where are you going and [why are you] leaving me alone?” The elder said to him: “Because you trouble us; that is why we are going away.” He said to them: “Yes, yes, let us go together wherever you like.” When the elder saw that there was no guile in him, he said to his brother: “Let us go back brother, for he does not want to do these things; it is the devil that does them to him.” They turned round and came [back] to their place. (Give Me a Word: The Alphabetical Sayings of the Desert Fathers, pp. 256-257)